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We Chose Adoption

Once again adoption is more than an idea in our family – it is a reality.

10929019_10206604680294704_245956839076266793_nMy second Chinese granddaughter is now in the family. I was reminded, as I was with the first adoption, that the entire family made a choice. Every member – daddy, mommy, two brothers and a sister – wants Ava to know how much she is loved and wanted. So do my husband and I. The rest of the extended family feels the same.

Ava and I have yet to meet, but once I was aware she would be joining the family, she earned a special spot in my heart. She doesn’t know me yet, but I love this precious girl.

Prior to leaving to pick Ava up from China, the family made preparation for her10665191_10207033896384959_5610547872014842076_n at home – shifting things around and making sure that she had her own spot in which to sleep and keep her belongings. Time, thought, effort and expense were given willingly – all because having Ava in the family was worth it. She has been and will continue to be loved sacrificially, unconditionally and completely.

Ava has yet to fully realize the depth of love that brought her into the family. I think someday she will.

Adoption is a choice God made. As part of His adopted family, I am blessed. I feel His love. I know that bringing me into His family cost Him immeasurable sacrifice – the death of His only begotten Son. God, the Father, Son and Holy Spirit knew the cost of offering me an eternal home with His family. I will never be able to fully comprehend the depth of His love, but the reciprocal and grateful love I have for Him is very real.

Our lives have been immeasurably enriched because my son and his family chose to adopt. This has helped me come a little closer to understanding God’s love for me and all of my Christian brothers and sisters.

We love Him because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). “I go to prepare a place for you…I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you….He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him….If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him…”(John 14: 2b, 18, 20-21, 23).

The Miracle of Adoption

In September 2008, my son and his wife felt God calling them to adopt a child – preferably a girl.  They have two terrific natural born sons, so they are in the minority of people who choose to adopt. Since most couples adopt because they can’t have children any other way, my son and his wife did not request a newborn. Wanting to keep the existing birth order in their family, they did ask for a child under three.

Anyone who has been through an adoption process or is related to someone who has knows that adoptions are expensive and enormously time consuming. Deciding to adopt a child makes a bold statement. Parents (and in some cases, siblings) are willing to pay the price to adopt a child.

In their case, two adoption agencies (the first one didn’t work out), much money and three years later, the day finally arrived. With all the hiccups in the process, one blog entry of my daughter-in-law’s was “God has a plan, God has a plan, God has a plan.”  Today, we know what that plan was.

In September 2008 Olivia’s birth mother was in her first trimester. After giving birth to Olivia seven months later (March 2009), she left her on a doorstep where she was found and taken to a foster home.

The referral from the agency came just after Olivia’s second birthday in March 2011. As soon as we all saw her picture, we knew why God allowed the delay. Everyone instantly knew that Olivia belonged to our family. She was not even born when they started the process with the first agency.

Olivia will know she is adopted. She will know that she is loved and wanted. She will be told that she was longed for, chosen and considered worth any price that had to be paid so she could be part of the family.

God wants, longs for and choses to adopt those who accept the sacrificial gift offered by Jesus Christ. He paid the highest price for each child of His: the life and death of His only begotten Son.

To all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God…God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure (John 1:12, Ephesians 1:5 NLT).