I am one of those lucky wives. My husband is the original handyman. He can fix just about anything and with a little self-education, he can build most anything he needs. Over the years he has saved us countless dollars because he is a do-it-yourselfer.
We have a pretty good arrangement. I do what I can do. He does everything else. When he asks for my help on a project, I know it is not because he needs me. In fact, he says, “Just do your best and don’t worry about it if you mess up a little.” Actually, I mess up a lot but I am happy to work alongside him. I may not be much help, but I am very touched that he wants me to be there with him. The fact that he enjoys my company means more than anything.
I often think if I die first, he will have very little adjustment. If he goes first – well, not only will I miss him terribly – but I will have to hire plumbers, electricians, auto mechanics, call for outside tech support and much, much more. As I said, I am one of the lucky ones.
My husband is also a great gift giver. He often surprises me with something I never expected. He does things for me and gives things to me not because he has to. He wants to. Some things he does for me are fairly easy for him, like helping with the dishes. Other things may require a sacrifice on his part. He may purchase something for me that prevents him from having something he wanted. In each case, whether easy or sacrificial, what he does is an expression of love.
Our marriage is a partnership – albeit a little lopsided.
Jesus relates to His followers in a variety of ways. As our Savior, He redeems us. As the Bread of Life, He supplies our needs. As the Light of the World, He brings us out of darkness. As our Shepherd, He guides us. As our Rock, He gives us strength. As our Foundation, He gives us stability. As our Advocate, He intercedes on our behalf. As the Truth, He brings integrity and clarity to life. As the Word of God, He speaks to us. As the True Vine, He gives us the ability to bear fruit.
One of the incredible revelations about our relationship with Jesus is that He relates to us as our bridegroom. He calls the redeemed His bride. He is planning a wedding feast for us – the likes of which cannot be imagined.
Jesus asks for our participation in His work – not because He needs it, but because He wants it. I sometimes think I hear Him saying, “Just do your best. Don’t worry. I’ll take care of the results.”
He is the ultimate gift giver. Many gifts that He gives are easy for Him. Others cost him the ultimate sacrifice. In every case, what He does is an expression of the love of a bridegroom for His bride.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word…”Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride has made herself ready.” And it was given to her to clothe herself in fine linen, bright and clean, for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints (Ephesians 5:25-26, Revelation 19:7-8 NAS).