Author: StephanieBBlake

I love to help others focus on the one thing that's most important in life through my ministry, teaching and writing. As Vice President of Xtend Ministries International -, I travel extensively with my husband. I maintain two websites: and On the One Focus site, you can find free Bible studies, devotionals and information about my first book, "The Prayer Driven Life". My book, "Money: How to Be Rich Without It and How to Stretch It Using Ten Hints from the Past and the Technology of Today" was the inspiration for Money saving hints are contained throughout the book and this site was created to continue to give helpful hints on stretching money or having the proper view toward money.

Pulling Weeds

Oh, the joys of those who . . . delight in doing everything the Lord wants. . . . They are like trees planted along the riverbank, bearing fruit each season without fail. Their leaves never wither, and in all they do, they prosper (Psalm 1:2-3 NLT).

It’s spring time in the northern hemisphere. If you are like me, you are always eager for spring.  The beauty of new growth invites a more prolonged stay outside. Some of my friends say that I am a little crazy because I love doing yard work.  Although it is a lot like housework (never completely finished), there is a great deal of satisfaction in walking away from a flower bed after having rid it of weeds and letting the plants that we really want to see show through.  Of course, if it is not done on a consistent basis, the weeds really do gain the upper hand. Then, instead of loving yard work, I find myself wishing for an easy way to produce the result I yearn for.  As of yet, I have not discovered a weed killer that will discriminate between what I want and what I don’t want, so I am the one who needs to make the judgment and pull out the unwanted growth one by one.

As I work in my flower beds, I often reflect on the fact that Jesus gave many illustrations using seeds, trees, fruit, plants, sowing, pruning and reaping.  As a result of the fall, the ground was cursed and work became an effort instead of a joy (Genesis 3:17-19).  There remains, however, the beauty of God’s creation all around us. If we are privileged enough to have the stewardship of a plot of earth in which we can sow and reap, then we partner with God in His garden enterprise.

In my garden, I have encountered a variety of weeds.  Some of them have a single root.  If that weed is pulled out by the root, wonderful!  If not, it will come back.  Others have complex root systems that make them next to impossible to pull out.  They must be dug out.  In those cases, I remember that the Lord said that He was going to leave the tares and the wheat to grow together, and do the weeding at the end of time (Matthew 13).  Sometimes I make a similar decision.  I will deal with those weeds again and again in order to save the good plants that are growing close to them.

The task of weeding reminds me of sin.  Maybe you, like me, have discovered that weeding, like ridding your life of sin, involves the following.

  • Weeding is backbreaking work.  If I don’t stay alert and “prayed up,” sin keeps coming back.  If I don’t keep up with the weeding, the weeds overtake the garden. Vigilance is the key! Bill Gaither says that there is a plaque on the wall of his home in Alexandria, Indiana that summed up his parents’ attitude about faith, “Pray for rain, but keep hoeing.”
  • It helps if the weeds can be pulled up by the roots. If possible, it is best to stop sin at its source. For instance, my nature is to panic and be fearful of unknown situations.  That is the opposite of faith.  When fear raises its ugly head in my life, I have to go back to the basics: trusting God! As my husband says, “Fear and faith cannot occupy the same space.”
  • Sometimes I need help. The task of weeding is a bit overwhelming sometimes, especially since my husband and I travel much of the year. Occasionally my husband, a friend or a neighbor will sit with me and help me pull out weeds.  Likewise, an accountability partner can often notice an area that is displeasing to God that I have overlooked.
  • Weeding is easier if the soil is soft or wet. If you ever tried to pull weeds in hard, dry soil, you know how hard it can be. Likewise, it is easier to dispose of sin when it is fresh and recognizable as sin.  The longer sin is left to harden in our lives, the harder it is to remove.

I started this reflection by commenting on how much I love to see new growth and flowers in my garden.  That is how I want to end it as well.  Weeding, both in my garden and in my life, is well worth it.

As I observe the flowers in my garden, I am reminded that a garden is not just one flower.  It is many flowers.  You and I are part of a big garden that God has planted.

Flowers need attention.  But don’t we love the attention our Heavenly Gardener showers on us? We are linked to His Living Vine.  We need each other.  Together we can “bloom where we are planted” so that others can see Jesus in us.

© Stephanie B. Blake

April 2009

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Driven by Prayer

My book, The Prayer Driven Life,  examines basic questions we all have about prayer. What is prayer? How do we pray? Why do we pray? What difference does it make? By examining the prayer life of the great apostle Paul, you and I discover some great truths about how to relate to God through prayer.

I chose The Prayer Driven Life for the name of the book for several reasons. Paul’s life was driven by his relationship to God and their conversations. Also, I knew that if we followed his example, it would be possible for us to have that same kind of relationship. When a life is truly driven by prayer, the promise of Proverbs 3:5-6 becomes a reality. God wants to direct our paths.

I also want my life to be prayer driven. As much as I wish I could say that everything I do is bathed in prayer, I must admit that it is not always. However, I know that everything should be bathed in prayer. The more my life is prayer driven, the closer I get to God. As I journey through life, I am learning just how important prayer is and what a wonderful privilege it is to be able to speak to Him and to hear His replies.

I can testify that when I have made prayer a priority in my life, God’s presence has been more real and His answers have sustained me.  Space would not permit me to include all the ways He has answered prayers for me and my family: my beloved father, my best friend and husband, my two sons, their wives and my incredible three grandsons. However, I would like to give you one example.

When my sons were toddlers, I started praying for the women that they would marry.  I figured it was never too soon for that request!  Now they are married and have sons of their own.  I can see the hand of God on their lives every step of the way, but especially in their choice of godly women who love them and their sons.

One daughter-in-law was being prepared for us right in front of our eyes.  She and my son played together as children in our church daycare.  We have pictures of them as they celebrated second and third birthdays together. When they were both three years old, we moved away.  In the providence of God, however, our families lived in the same city again when they were teenagers.  They were part of a wonderful group of young people at a church where my husband was pastor.  It was not until they were ready to graduate from college, though, that our son told us that he was going to ask her to marry him.  The joy that filled our hearts (my husband, me and our youngest son) was nearly tangible!

Our other daughter-in-law came to our family after our son was already in the Air Force.  He had also been praying for a godly wife.  At a singles class in church, he met a girl that he was immediately drawn to.  He was impressed not only with her physical beauty, but her inner spiritual strength. The deep friendship that was formed at first eventually developed into a romance. You can imagine the rest.  I thank God every day for how He answered those prayers.

I have observed that in the big and little issues of life (and everything in between), God is pleased when we talk to Him.  As our loving Father, He responds with the answer that is best for us and for His perfect plan for our lives.

My hope is that you, too, want to know God better through a special relationship with Him which includes prayer.  The apostle Paul said that we should rejoice always; pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NKJV).  If you and I would follow his suggestion, that would make every day a wonderful prayer walk with our gracious God.

© Stephanie B. Blake

March 2009

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